Very quick update!
We had a food-tasting with our caterer today, which went very yummy. We're quite happy.
To answer a question I've received a couple times now: Thank you to those who have asked us to post our registry online so you can get us a gift, but that isn't necessary. Registry information will go out with wedding invitations.
Also other big-news stuff, which I've hinted at in other locations, but don't want to jinx by talking about it too much.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Friday, August 21, 2009
Just for fun
Just for the fun of it, Mandi and I made an appointment to go try on some "fun" dresses today- big puffy princess dresses and dresses with mermaid skirts, and otherwise the kinds of styles we're really not doing.
The camera we had with us wasn't great quality, so I don't have larger versions of these.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
The way the world turns...
Today I talked to a gentleman from my bank about home loans. Mandi and I have started talking about the possibility of buying our own home sometime next year, probably after the wedding, and I had a few questions I wanted answered.
I had mentioned "My fiancee and I are talking about buying a house" and at some point in the conversation the man from the bank said, "You and your husband, right?" and I corrected, "Wife, but yes."
I didn't hesitate to correct him. I have played the pronoun game in the past, but at this point it didn't occur to me that there might be any problem with being honest. I live in Massachusetts. If I'm treated poorly because of my sexuality, I bring my business to another establishment.
The banker apologized, sounded a little embarrassed, and we moved on with the conversation.
The world is still heterocentric, and I imagine it always will be. After all, if 90% of the people out there are heterosexual, it's still a good bet the person talking to you will be. But at least locally-- and especially in the wedding business-- we've reached a point where businesses are embarrassed and apologetic when they make that mistake. And that's a special kind of progress.
After all, we live in a capitalistic society. The market drives this madness, and weddings are a pretty big market. To quote the executive director of MassEquality in July, 2008, "It's rare when doing the right thing and economic benefits go so closely hand-in-hand."
But seriously, can you imagine how many times and to how many people you have to come out in order to arrange a wedding? The Rabbi, the dress shop, the tux shop, the rental company, the jeweler, the caterer, the cake-baker, the candle-stick maker.
I had mentioned "My fiancee and I are talking about buying a house" and at some point in the conversation the man from the bank said, "You and your husband, right?" and I corrected, "Wife, but yes."
I didn't hesitate to correct him. I have played the pronoun game in the past, but at this point it didn't occur to me that there might be any problem with being honest. I live in Massachusetts. If I'm treated poorly because of my sexuality, I bring my business to another establishment.
The banker apologized, sounded a little embarrassed, and we moved on with the conversation.
The world is still heterocentric, and I imagine it always will be. After all, if 90% of the people out there are heterosexual, it's still a good bet the person talking to you will be. But at least locally-- and especially in the wedding business-- we've reached a point where businesses are embarrassed and apologetic when they make that mistake. And that's a special kind of progress.
After all, we live in a capitalistic society. The market drives this madness, and weddings are a pretty big market. To quote the executive director of MassEquality in July, 2008, "It's rare when doing the right thing and economic benefits go so closely hand-in-hand."
But seriously, can you imagine how many times and to how many people you have to come out in order to arrange a wedding? The Rabbi, the dress shop, the tux shop, the rental company, the jeweler, the caterer, the cake-baker, the candle-stick maker.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Where are we now; where should we be?
12+ Months
List from: Roney, Carley. (2007). The knot book of wedding lists: The ultimate guild to the perfect day, down to the smallest detail. New York: Random House.
- Set a date: Check. July 4, 2010. Time TBA.
- Determine wedding day style and colors: Check. Red/White/Blue, semi-formal, summer outdoor wedding
- Hire a wedding planner: Check, in that we've decided to skip this step.
- Set up a budget: Kinda-check. A bit of a work in progress, but we have a goal.
- Compile guest list: More or less.
- Create a web page to announce... uh, well, kind of? We have a blog! And I put an announcement on Facebook and Nyeusigrube.
- Choose your wedding party: Check.
- Have an engagement party: Check.
- Book your ceremony and reception location: Check.
- Book your officiant: Check.
- Send out save-the-date cards: Still debating whether we're going to
- Book your caterer: In progress.
- Book your entertainment: Check.
- Book your florist: In progress.
- Book your photographer: Check.
- Buy your gown: Check for me, in progress for Mandi
- Determine your menu: In progress
- Book your cake baker: Connected to caterer
- Book your transportation: ??
- Book your ceremony musicians: Same as entertainment (DJ)
- Buy bridesmaids dresses: Check for me, visiting about tux for my best man, Mandi's bridesmaids in progress
- Register for gifts: Ha. No clue yet.
- Make honeymoon arrangements: Done preliminary discussions
- Rent or buy formal-wear: Doing the research
- Order invitations: Done preliminary research
- Order wedding bands: Identified jeweler
- Reserve rental equipment: In progress
List from: Roney, Carley. (2007). The knot book of wedding lists: The ultimate guild to the perfect day, down to the smallest detail. New York: Random House.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Less than a year left!
We found a better caterer-- local, highly recommended by many people, and kosher! Very exciting!
I'm going to see a good friend of mine today, and he's coming with me to try on my dress, which arrived at the bridal store. It'll need to go in for round-one of alterations, at least to add a bustle. [edit: Oh, fie! I just double-checked, and the dress isn't what's in. It's just the veil. Which is nice and pretty and all, but not nearly as exciting. Maybe I'll just pick it up this morning on my own]
On Tuesday I have an appointment with my bridesmaids to hopefully make final dress decisions. Why so early? Because they're discontinuing my color! Que horrible! I might end up changing my style choice... one of my bridesmaids is unhappy about it. I'll see if I can find something all three of us can live with.
Wednesday is a follow-up appointment with the tent people, to try out some different ideas for placement.
Meanwhile, we're on the search for DJs... one possible so far, but hoping more will respond to my emails this week.
We're trying to get as much done before September as we can, since that is when Mandi's schedule especially will go nuts, and there will be no more time for appointments and stuff.
Off I go now to get things from my mother's house and then track down a florist!
I'm going to see a good friend of mine today, and he's coming with me to try on my dress, which arrived at the bridal store. It'll need to go in for round-one of alterations, at least to add a bustle. [edit: Oh, fie! I just double-checked, and the dress isn't what's in. It's just the veil. Which is nice and pretty and all, but not nearly as exciting. Maybe I'll just pick it up this morning on my own]
On Tuesday I have an appointment with my bridesmaids to hopefully make final dress decisions. Why so early? Because they're discontinuing my color! Que horrible! I might end up changing my style choice... one of my bridesmaids is unhappy about it. I'll see if I can find something all three of us can live with.
Wednesday is a follow-up appointment with the tent people, to try out some different ideas for placement.
Meanwhile, we're on the search for DJs... one possible so far, but hoping more will respond to my emails this week.
We're trying to get as much done before September as we can, since that is when Mandi's schedule especially will go nuts, and there will be no more time for appointments and stuff.
Off I go now to get things from my mother's house and then track down a florist!
Monday, June 29, 2009
My updates
So I am so jealous that Amy beat me to the punch with the dress buying. The woman who is paying for my dress has a fractured foot and has been unable to drive and walk far distances the past few weeks. One day She will be well again, and I can get my dress. I think I have an idea of my bridesmaids dresses, but I seem to only find the skirt version of what i want, and no top parts to go with it... Oh well :)
We looked at invitations today... I think we have like 30 that we want to pick from. We'll narrow it down soon enough. We don't need them until December anyways. We should start collecting addresses by September or October so that when we get the save the date cards in December, they're already to go. So much work still needs to be done.
I got an email back from a dance studio down the street from us who will be teaching us how to dance so we don't completely embarrass ourselves. Not that we ever would anyways... cough cough... no really. :)
So much to do... and suddenly it doesn't seem like there is that much time. . .
We looked at invitations today... I think we have like 30 that we want to pick from. We'll narrow it down soon enough. We don't need them until December anyways. We should start collecting addresses by September or October so that when we get the save the date cards in December, they're already to go. So much work still needs to be done.
I got an email back from a dance studio down the street from us who will be teaching us how to dance so we don't completely embarrass ourselves. Not that we ever would anyways... cough cough... no really. :)
So much to do... and suddenly it doesn't seem like there is that much time. . .
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
12.5 months
A little more than one year out.
I have an appointment to go with my mother to the bridal shop on the 27th. According to multiple sources, you're supposed to start this whole dress-buying-ordering process a year before the date, in order to be safe with the amount of time it takes to order the dress, do fittings, and do alterations if necessary.
I've also picked out my bridesmaids' dresses, which will be in a color called "blue velvet," which is kind of deep indigoy color. I was surprised that the same style looks good on both of my bridesmaids, but apparently it does. My best man will be wearing a tux, not a dress.
In other news:
Mandi and I have spoken to a couple caterers, and have found an option that might work out. Because some of our guests keep strictly kosher, there are some extra food-related challenges, in addition to the fact that catering is apparently flat-out wickedly expensive. I hadn't realized that the food was likely to cost as much as everything else combined. If you're ever planning a wedding, figure out your food first. If you're ever attending a wedding, don't insult the food!
So... we have the location... we've figured out the tent... working on the food... next up is finding a DJ. Oh, and cake-testing. This summer will involve tasting cake.
I have an appointment to go with my mother to the bridal shop on the 27th. According to multiple sources, you're supposed to start this whole dress-buying-ordering process a year before the date, in order to be safe with the amount of time it takes to order the dress, do fittings, and do alterations if necessary.
I've also picked out my bridesmaids' dresses, which will be in a color called "blue velvet," which is kind of deep indigoy color. I was surprised that the same style looks good on both of my bridesmaids, but apparently it does. My best man will be wearing a tux, not a dress.
In other news:
Mandi and I have spoken to a couple caterers, and have found an option that might work out. Because some of our guests keep strictly kosher, there are some extra food-related challenges, in addition to the fact that catering is apparently flat-out wickedly expensive. I hadn't realized that the food was likely to cost as much as everything else combined. If you're ever planning a wedding, figure out your food first. If you're ever attending a wedding, don't insult the food!
So... we have the location... we've figured out the tent... working on the food... next up is finding a DJ. Oh, and cake-testing. This summer will involve tasting cake.
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